Why Do I Keep Repeating Relationship Patterns? You might notice it in different ways. You end up in similar relationships, even when you try to choose differently. You say you won’t people please this time, but slowly find yourself putting the other person first again. You tell yourself you’ll speak up, but in the moment, you can’t, or you understand things logically, but it doesn’t seem to change how it feels  or how things play out. Over time, this can leave you feeling fru

Emotional Deprivation Schema Explained Some people move through life with a quiet but persistent feeling that something important is missing in their relationships. They may have friends, partners or family around them, yet still feel alone, unsupported, or emotionally unseen. In Schema Therapy, this experience is sometimes understood as the Emotional Deprivation Schema. Schemas are long-standing emotional patterns that develop in childhood or adolescence when important emoti

Many people come to therapy having already tried to “think differently” or manage their symptoms, yet still find themselves stuck in the same emotional patterns. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Schema Therapy are both evidence-based approaches, but they work at different depths and can feel very different in practice. CBT focuses on the connection between thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. It can be very effective for difficulties such as anxiety, OCD, low mood, an

Many people seek therapy because they feel stuck in the same emotional patterns, despite having insight, motivation, or previous therapy. You might notice recurring feelings of anxiety, shame, self-criticism, or loneliness, or find yourself repeating the same difficulties in relationships, work, or self-care. Schema Therapy is particularly helpful for long-standing patterns that feel deeply rooted and hard to shift. What Are Long-Standing Patterns? Long-standing patterns are

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I offer a unique blend of Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). These approaches can be used together, or can be equally effective on their own. To see how I combine these approaches it might be good to visit my Therapy page However, in the majority of circumstances, I will draw from both techniques in my work with clients. About Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) Paul Gilbert created Compassion-Focused Therapy to specifically address sha

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